Umar (r) said, “There was no single difficulty I faced, or a calamity which struck me, but that I had four bounties bestowed on me by Allah SWT. First that the calamity (or difficulty) was not in my deen. Second that it was not worse than it was. Third that I was not deprived of …
A wise man was passing through a village and he and a youth started talking and sat together on the edge of a stream. The wise man told him of a tradition in the village of his own youth. He said that they had a ceremony once a month that began with the beating on a …
One day a man came home from work tired and frustrated from the day’s many challenges and problems. After dinner he saw his three year-old daughter blowing into a box, over and over again. He was trying to watch TV and the sound was very annoying to him. He yelled at his daughter to stop …
The Quran tells us that “…man is impatient, given to haste (17:11). This is so true. In fact, we often eat with haste. We read, talk, and even pray too often with haste. Fasting can help us to slow down, to step outside the “rapid-fire culture” which is consuming us. As long as we remain …
Marriage requires the willingness to grow, and at times, change some behavior or habit that negatively impacts the health and vitality of the marriage relationship. What better demonstrates a devotion to the spouse than learning to be more patient, becoming a better listener, being more considerate, or whatever it takes to contribute positively to the …
Research in neurocardiology has produced some fascinating perspectives on the interaction of the brain and the heart. According to Professor Mohamed Omar Salem, “It has long been thought that conscious awareness originates in the brain alone. Recent scientific studies suggest that consciousness emerges from the brain and body acting together…a growing body of evidence now …
A mother was at the grocery store with her 18-month-old son who lately had begun throwing temper tantrums whenever he couldn’t get his way. This morning he was asking for candy and when told it was almost time for lunch and he could have a candy after lunch, the toddler began whining and kicking while …
Two fish were swimming when they saw a piece of meat dangling before them. The younger fish darted toward it with an open mouth. The older fish cried out, “Stop! You can’t see it, but there is a hook inside that meat. It is connected by an invisible line to a pole outside the water. …
The Benefits of Pre-Marital Coaching and Training The Statistics It is not difficult to realize the need for sincere effort to prepare for marriage, especially when “statistics indicate that approximately 40 percent of first marriages [in North America] end in divorce.” The experience of Muslim counselors indicates that the divorce rate among Muslims is not …
In marriage, we can commit to taking care of the needs of the spouse, nourishing them and treating them like we would automatically treat a guest. Unfortunately, it is very common that spouses start treating each other in ways that take for granted the role they can play in making for not only a happy …